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The 6 Unspoken Rules Of Modern Dating. If you don’t know by now, times have most definitely changed in terms of the dating world. If you are a member of the millennial age group and just so happen to be single, welcome to the tennis match that is about to be your dating life.

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For lack of better words, dating in this age can be described as a game. Hell, sometimes it’s a game I wasn’t even aware I was playing. If you are still in denial in thinking these rules don’t apply to you, I suggest you read on. I can almost guarantee any single person between the ages of 18 and 30 can relate to the following unspoken rules at least once. 1. Social media activity means something more than what it actually means. A “like” on an Instagram or Facebook post will more often than not relay some sort of interest in the person posting. For example, let’s say a guy has been consistently liking the pictures you post on your Instagram page. Millennials interpret that like as a serious sign of that person showing interest in you. I mean, let’s be honest, if a guy throws a like at your post, he’s probably not liking the picture because you have some fluffy caption that captivates his soul. No, quite the opposite: He just wants to make himself relevant. Now, if you get a notification that someone has liked a picture from several weeks ago, that shows ma- jor interest and can actually be described as “cyber stalking” if it goes too far. It is a sure sign that rather than just scrolling through his news feed and casually stumbling on your post, he has made the choice to visit your profile page. “OMG he liked a picture on my Instagram from three months ago!” is something I’ve heard many of my friends say. If the liker happens to be someone you are interested in, the person is obviously showing interest back. Insert “jump split” here! There is nothing more rewarding than that. However, on the flip side, if the aged like is from someone that repulses you, he will immediately be labeled a creep. 2. You can’t be caught dead sending the first text. This is a rule that took me a moment to grasp. To a rational person, if both parties are interested enough to ex- change numbers, it would seem like the next logical step to progression would be texting that person to talk. Or, dare I say it, make plans for a date. This is millennials we’re talking about, people. Everything is written in code that the average mindful person will never be able to understand. So, if you are a woman and you send the first text, or even God forbid double-text, you will be labeled as desperate or aggressive. The goal is to appear to be interested, but not too interested. Available, but also super-busy. It’s exhausting. 3. Do not, and I repeat, do not try to define the relationship. This is the generation of distance. Rather than define, we will dance around the idea of making anything official. If you try to label the relationship, chances are the guy will head for the hills because relationships with definitions hold people accountable. When you are held accountable, suddenly any of your questionable side behavior is labeled as cheating. You see, while you are in a relationship it is highly frowned upon to like other girls’ pictures on social media, send snap chats to members of the opposite sex, and ditch your girl all weekend to spend time with the boys. As long as that relationship has no real definition, you can pretty much do as you please. It’s no surprise that guys freak out the second you question where the relationship is going. It’s almost like having house rules when you come back from college during the holidays to stay with your parents. When you are used to living your life your own way with no regard for a partner, there is no rush to signing up for the obligations that a defined relationship can impose. 4. Never question the intent of cheating. The lines are blurred these days with all of the underlying meanings out there. A guy you are seeing tags another girl in a meme, likes a picture or carries on a back and forth brigade of Snapchat selfies. It’s not actually cheating, although we all know it isn’t exactly innocent either. Millennials want you to be the cool girl who is disconnected, so you can’t actually be mad about something like that, right? Wrong. We all just have to pretend that we aren’t mad when really it’s clear that the guy you are seeing is keeping his options open right in front of you. Your relationship or “situationship” will be kept at arm’s length, but you know what else is kept at arm’s length? Another girl that he’s been showing interest to on all forms of social media. It’s as if everyone has something on the back burner these days! 5. Expect to be ghosted, but don’t cross them off the list. Just because you haven’t heard from a person in two weeks doesn’t mean you’ve been given permission to move on to someone new. Like I said, dating millennials is all about deflecting from definition. The newest trend in dating is “ghosting“- when someone you have been dating seemingly disappears into thin air, drop- ping all forms of communication.













modern day dating rules